Something Inside Us

Have you ever heard a voice which whispers to you constantly? If you have, keep reading this article because I will tell you how important it is. First of all, we may know that words and the way we use them are very crucial. The reason is that they have the ability of affecting us, our thoughts and our mood. It will be always different how we feel when we hear "I love you" and "You are disgusting". Actually they both are sentences which are made from words. However, their impacts on us are totally different. When we are told "I love you", we feel very happy, accepted and admired. On the other hand, if someone says "I hate you", at least we can start asking question about ourselves. If he is one of the those who we care and love, then probably we will be very sad and depressive. So, words.. some of them are made from iron, and some of them from cotton.

As I said before, we are creatures that are highly affected by words, we are very sensetive to words. Now that they have the capacity of affecting us, we must be very careful and picky about what we listen, hear and read. I believe that nearly none of us wants to be together with such kind of people who always say bad words, criticise, insult and defame. On the contrary, we like being with those who encourage us with their speeches, say positive and constructve words even if the situation we are going through is not so heartwarming. Now that we are looking for some positive and soft words, why do we not silence the destructive voice inside us? Why do we allow this voice to beat us up? I belive that most of us has been bitten by this voice becuse they emerge when we mess things up, do something bad and fall through. So, we are all humans and not free from wrongs and it means that it is very likely to hear this voice that condemns us: "You are just a awkward, you have always been this way, everyone hates you, you are just a comedy content for others, you do not know anything, you'd better shut your mouth up, you, you, you." Are you familiar with these words? Most of you, yes, you are. But, how about telling them other people? Would you talk to people this way? Would you say these words to your friend who does something wrong? No, you would not. We are tend to be more gentle and understanding when it comes to other people. However, when it comes to us, we are being about to stab ourselves. Sadly, we may consider this case as a teacher of manners. But, no. No-one can be trained by insults. Our self talk cannot be beneficial if it is beating us. 

As being mentioned before, negative and destructive inner voice (self talk) oftenly appears when we go through difficult times. If we fails the exam, it starts to say "How mess you are, how lazy you are, maybe you are idiot a bit.." However, if we want to imrove, recover or get better, we have to have a postive and friendly self talk. That means we have to treat ourselves gently. Maybe we did a lot of mistakes, broke our loved ones' hearts, failured many times. It does not matter what we gone through, it is very important to talk to ourselves in a kind way. The last messanger, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "None of you must say 'My soul became disgusting' but one should say 'My soul is being annoyed." What is the wisdom behind this command? Because when you say "I am very bad person", you start to convince yourself that you are really bad person. As soon as you are convinced, then there may no reason left to try for better. As I remember, one of the scholars of Islam said that "Don't help the devil by saying 'I became lazy." But we should say "Yes, I am not great but I can be better, I trust myself, I achieved many beautiful things before.." Finally, it is good to remember that we are turning into what we are saying to ourselves in the long term.

Praise be to Lord.